“Love Mercy” – Giving People What They Don’t Deserve

“Love Mercy” – Giving People What They Don’t Deserve
  1. Micah 6:8 really captures our attention because when Gods says, ‘Here’s what I’m expecting of you,’ believers perk up! And it doesn’t get much clearer than this: “He hath shewed thee, O man, what is good; and what doth the LORD require of thee, but to do justly, and to love mercy, and to walk humbly with thy God.”

#1. “Do justly.”

#2. “Love mercy.”

#3. “Walk humbly with thy God.”

A Mercy That Transforms

We’ve previously seen that justice (like mercy) is something that God expects to find growing in His children because He Himself is just and merciful. To act justly is to work for equity and fairness, to work to right wrongs and fix what’s broken.

But, while to act justly is to give people what they deserve, mercy is giving people what they don’t.

My sin deserves condemnation from God, but I’ve found forgiveness.

My transgressions made me God’s enemy, but I’ve found mercy.

I’ve received from God’s hand what I didn’t deserve.

But, while that’s certainly true, God is not content that I remain a mere mercy-receiver; He expects me to become a mercy-bearer.

In the Parable of the Unmerciful Servant, Jesus drives this point home in technicolor! In it, the master is furious with his servant for his lack of mercy. The servant had been forgiven an enormous debt by his master, but then refused to forgive his fellow servant a much smaller debt. He treats the man with cruelty rather than mercy and his lord is none too happy when he hears about it. “You wicked servant!” he says, “I forgave you all that debt because you pleaded with me. Should not you have had mercy on your fellow servant, as I had mercy on you?’

Yikes! Jesus calls the servant who holds back mercy from one who needs it a “wicked” servant and then concludes the parable with hard words: “And in anger his master delivered him to the jailers, until he should pay all his debt. So also my heavenly Father will do to every one of you, if you do not forgive your brother from your heart” (Matthew 18:23-35).

Do what you will with this passage, but I’ll say this: If you come away from it with any message other than ‘the Lord is serious about finding mercy and forgiveness growing in the people He’s forgiven,’ you got the wrong message!

In a nutshell, Jesus is saying, “Be merciful, even as your Father is merciful.”

In this we see the glory of God’s plan to reproduce His life through us: that all who have been kissed by mercy – that’s you and I – would go out into the world as mercy-bearers and do good to our enemies. That we would touch someone with something that just might change his or her life forever and lead them to the Father’s house.

When God gives us His mercy, He looks for it to transform us.

Hebrews 4:16 promises mercy to all who approach His “throne of grace with confidence.” But it’s no less true that He expects those who come to us to find it too!

Forgiveness as the Kiss of Mercy

What does it look like to dispense mercy? How do we even do that? I think the most obvious way we give mercy to others is by forgiving them their trespasses against us – even the hard stuff.

“It is easier to forgive an enemy than to forgive a friend,” William Blake once wrote, and he was right. When the one who hurts us is the one closest to us, the wound runs deep. But what a glorious opportunity that wound makes for us to be merciful!

To do so is anything but easy. To be a mercy-bearer at such times requires a life that’s been transformed by God – forgiven much, so able to forgive much.

Forgiving from a place of pain is one of the most difficult things that God asks us to do. Mark Twain once quipped that “forgiveness is the fragrance that the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it.”

But, while it’s difficult, it’s so distinctively Christ-like! When we deserved judgement, Jesus bore our terrible sins. He restored us and brought us back to the Father. He suffered what He didn’t deserve so He could give us what we didn’t deserve.

And so, we seek to be “imitators of God, as beloved children” and to “walk in love, as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us, a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God” (Ephesians 5:1-2).

As followers of Jesus, we strive to be like Him. And what is He like? He is merciful and forgiving, demonstrating His love for us by His own sacrifice.

The practice of mercy, then, is not merely suggested, it’s expected.

“Whenever you stand praying,” Jesus said, “forgive, if you have anything against anyone …” (Mark 11:24-25a). In another place He said, “First be reconciled to your brother, and then come and offer your gift” (Matthew 5:24).

“To be a Christian,” wrote C.S. Lewis, “means to forgive the inexcusable because God has forgiven the inexcusable in you.” Jesus expects those who follow Him to be reproducing His character in themselves. “Be kind to one another, tenderhearted,” Paul wrote, “forgiving one another, as God in Christ has forgiven you” (Ephesians 4:32).

Mercy as Love’s Victory Dance

The greatest thing about mercy is its victory dance! It always triumphs over the enemy and brings good to all it touches. When I deserved condemnation, mercy found a way to give me something else, something far better, something good. Mercy has triumphed over judgment!

The Greek word translated “triumph” in James 2:13 (κατακαυχάομαι) is such a great word! It literally means to brag, to “boast at the expense of another.” The word was used to describe a gladiator exulting over his defeated foe (BAGD, 3rd ed., p.517).

It’s a victory dance!

That’s what God has done for us, friends. While we were yet His enemies, He found a way to bring us something good. Through the unimaginable love of Jesus, He found a way for mercy to thumb its nose at judgment and say, ‘Na na na goo goo!

And when we do the same – when we forgive those who have hurt us, when we give mercy where railing is deserved – we’re giving the devil a little taste of what’s waiting for him just around the corner. For Paul reminds us, “The God of peace will soon crush Satan under your feet” (Romans 16:20).

God wants us to “love mercy” because He loves mercy.

And, while the German poet Heinrich Heine was being clever when he wrote, “God will forgive me; it’s his job,” God is forever reminding us that it’s our job too!


To consider

  • Is there anyone you’re holding back forgiveness from? How are you justifying your lack of mercy? How does it measure up against what God’s forgiven in you?
  • Reinhold Niebuhr once wrote, “Forgiveness is the final form of love.” What do you think of this? What do you think it means?
  • It’s been said that we have to forgive those who wrong us, not necessarily for them, but for ourselves. Is this true? How is it true? What do you think this means?
  • Why do you think God uses such strong language when speaking about those who withhold mercy? Consider Matthew 18:32-35, Matthew 6:14-15, and James 2:13a.
  • How is forgiving – releasing someone who’s hurt you from their debt – a triumph?
  • The Book of Hebrews talks about the “blood of Abel” – the blood that was shed by his brother Cain when he committed the first murder in human history. It says that Jesus’ blood “speaks a better word than the blood of Abel.”

What do you think this means? How does the blood of Christ speak better things than the blood of Abel?

What do you think they each say?

  • What does your lack of mercy/forgiveness say about the state of your walk with Jesus?
  • In what areas of your life do you lack mercy? Forgiveness?

How might you make this right before God?

(Consider that mercy and forgiveness might not be skills to be learned, but virtues that flow from a close and transforming walk with Jesus.)



  1. we all need to forgive the ones that hurt us God wants us to forgive them some times it is hard to do but we must forgive them.

  2. My mom has been such a powerful example of this. She went through a terrible divorce back in 1969, when must people stayed married, even if they were miserable. My father signed the papers and never looked back. He married again, ignored his child support and never tried to make contact with us. When my mother remarried in 1975, he relinquished all his parental rights so that my mother’s new husband could adopt me. Life was not a lot of fun in those early years—my mom was dealing with the stigma of being divorced in a time when that was truly shameful. She couldn’t answer my questions about why my father wasn’t interested in me. But in 1974, my mom met Jesus. She understood her need to forgive, because she had been forgiven so much. When I asked my questions and expressed my outrage about my absentee father, she didn’t react from a place of justified anger, but of empathy and compassion for a man who didn’t have the capacity to be a father. If she didn’t withhold her forgiveness in this situation, I realized two things—her relationship with the Lord was miraculously transformative, and the Lord was calling me to do no less. I can’t say that it was instantaneous. I grew into what God was calling me to do. Before my father died, he accepted God’s forgiveness and had a home waiting for him in heaven. I like to think that the example of the mercy I ultimately showed my father helped to lead him to the foot of the cross. But it didn’t start with me—it started with Jesus and my mom. He worked His plan out and I hope to pass on a legacy of mercy to my children.

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