The Truth About Cross-Carrying

The Truth About Cross-Carrying

“Follow Me,” Jesus said. Paul would later write, “Be imitators of me, as I am of Christ.” “I became your father in Christ Jesus through the gospel,” he told the church at Corinth, “I urge you, then, be imitators of me” (Mark 1:17; 1 Corinthians 11:1, 4:15-16).

But following and imitating Jesus would come at a cost. Jesus Himself challenged His disciples with these words: “If anyone would come after me, let him deny himself and take up his cross and follow me” (Matthew 16:24).

These days, such verses are often dismissed as hyper-spiritual idealism. But they need to be embraced by believers for what they truly are: God’s blueprint for discipleship.

When Mrs. Zebedee approached Jesus with her sons, John and James, and asked Him to “say that these two sons of mine are to sit, one at your right hand and one at your left, in your kingdom,” Jesus replied, “You do not know what you are asking” (Matthew 20:21-22). Had she known what those seats would cost, she might not have asked!

Trafficking in Death?

Reading Paul and Jesus’ words one might almost think they’re trafficking in death. Both beckon Christians to a cross – an instrument of death, to co-crucifixion. Paul urges believers to be as he is, to imitate him, but then reminds us that he is “crucified” with Christ (Galatians 2:20). “I die every day,” he says in 1 Corinthians 15:31.

But here’s the thing, out of this death-to-self comes true life! And so, Jesus said, “whoever would save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for my sake will find it” (Matthew 16:25). Ah, there’s the rub: this death-to-self – and ONLY this death-to-self – leads to true life – life in Christ Jesus, a fresh “newness of life” (Romans 6:4).

In light of these fascinating and challenging verses, we should consider carefully what Jesus means by saying, “follow Me.”

Family Matters

At one time in His ministry, a great crowd was accompanying Him – and many for the wrong reasons. So, at one point, Jesus turned to them and said, “If anyone comes to me and does not hate his own father and mother and wife and children and brothers and sisters, yes, and even his own life, he cannot be my disciple. Whoever does not bear his own cross and come after me cannot be my disciple” (Luke 14:25-27).


Imagine yourself in that crowd. Jesus was serving notice that God is not OK with anything coming between me and my following Him. Not father. Not mother. Not wife. Not children. Not brother or sister. And not even my own life.

Now, there’s obviously some measure of hyperbole here. J.A. Martin writes:

Literally hating one’s family would have been a violation of the Law … He must not have meant here that one should literally hate his family. The stress here is on the priority of love … One’s loyalty to Jesus must come before his loyalty to his family or even to life itself (J.A. Martin, Luke [BKC] 1985).

Making Jesus Famous

Remember, Jesus declared that “whoever does not bear his own cross and come after me cannot be my disciple” (Luke 14:27). So, from there, Martin goes on to consider what Jesus’ command that each disciple bear his or her own cross really means:

When the Roman Empire crucified a criminal or captive, the victim was often forced to carry his cross part of the way to the crucifixion site. Carrying his cross through the heart of the city was supposed to be a tacit admission that the Roman Empire was correct in the sentence of death imposed on him, an admission that Rome was right and he was wrong. So, when Jesus enjoined His followers to carry their crosses and follow Him, He was referring to a public display before others that Jesus was right and that the disciples were following Him even to their deaths (ibid.).

So, to carry my cross is to publicly proclaim that Jesus is right and that I’ll follow Him wherever He leads regardless of the cost. Discipleship then is all encompassing.

Commandment #1

God will simply never be content with taking second place in my life. But, after all, isn’t that the essence of the First Commandment? “I am the Lord your God, who brought you out of the land of Egypt, out of the place of slavery. Do not have other gods besides Me” (Exodus 20:2-3, HCSB).

‘You were slaves,’ God is saying. ‘You were bound with powerful cords to the enemy. I set you free! I released the captives! I alone am God. So, have no others!’

Or, as Jesus put it, “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. This is the great and first commandment” (Matthew 22:37-38).

While the eye might naturally fall upon any of single words in this saying (“love,” “heart,” “soul,” “mind,” even “commandment”), I think all the literary arrows point to the tiny three-letter English word “ALL”. “You shall love the Lord your God with ALL your heart and with ALL your soul and with ALL your mind.”

So, carrying one’s cross encapsulates two great truths. “First, one must be willing to give up his or her primary allegiance to family and [even] self.” And second, “a disciple must bear the burden of public identification with Jesus even to death if necessary” (Tom Constable’s Expository Notes on the Bible, 2003).

The bottom line is that the Lord is seeking followers who’ve counted the cost and are willing to lay it all down.

He’ll accept nothing less than all.


To consider …

  • Have you truly considered what it means to follow Jesus?

What are you holding back from Him?

Is there something in you that needs to die, but that you’re trying to preserve?

Is there something or someone that stands above God in your list of priorities?

How do you reconcile this with Jesus’ words?

  • What keeps you from letting go of those things that God wants to see die in you? Be honest with yourself here.
  • What, if anything, has it cost you to follow Jesus?
  • Have you experienced the ‘newness’ of life that Jesus promised would flow from dying to self?

How has ‘abundant life’ manifested itself in you?

  • Jesus specifically spoke of one’s loyalty to his or her family.

Has your family been a hindrance or a blessing in your spiritual journey?

How have you dealt with this challenge, if there is one?

  • How public is your cross-carrying?

In asking each believer to carry his or her own cross, Martin contends that Jesus was “referring to a public display before others that Jesus was right …”

Are you more of a ‘public disciple’ or a ‘secret agent’?

Is there something you need to speak with Jesus about?




  2. Thank you for this challenging message Pastor G! I have been “soaking” in 1 Corinthians 4:10-13 since yesterday and honestly find myself coming up pretty short in the imitation department. This humbles me a great deal.
    And thanks, Pastor G, for being such a loving example to us. In spite of your own discomfort and suffering yesterday, you showed up, selflessly, to tend your flock with this message! Thank you for your dedication and discipleship! This also humbles me. Praying for you today to be reminded of our Lord’s faithfulness in many ways!!

  3. Kerin Medeiros : June 25, 2018 at 11:31 am

    I am so challenged in this call to wholehearted and single minded Christ following. Bob C. mentioned in a comment last week that he was the faith pioneer of his family, the first to be called out of “religion” and into relationship with Jesus. I’ve also been the initial one to walk the road of discipleship with Jesus. Relationally speaking, it’s been a lonely journey. There’s been a tangible cost of bearing with the rejection of those I love and want to know Him. This makes me even more determined to intercede for their souls and prayer for divine appointments to show them His love. Being designated as Christ’s has meant identifying with those who are deemed by the world system to be,” fools”, “weak”,”of disrepute”,”buffeted”, “reviled”,”persecuted”, “reviled”, “slandered”,”scum of the world”, and “refuse”.(I Cor.4:8-13) I cling to the assurance that God has prepared me for what I will face in this world until I see His face in the next. I expect His empowerment to walk in those “good works” He planned for me (Eph. 2:10) before I was known to anyone else.

  4. David Medeiros : June 25, 2018 at 5:06 pm

    As I think back some 20 years now at the time when God backed me in a corner, so to speak, and confronted me about this discipleship process and Jesus’s statements which constituted genuine discipleship. Oh, I had my moments when I was moving forward and serving Him but as I came to realize, something I have stated on many occasions, serving and being a servant were not synonymous. My claims of being a disciple, as Luke 9:23 states by the Lord Jesus, were challenged by the Lord and I realized I was found wanting. There were people and situations that I was putting ahead of Jesus and I needed to make a very difficult decision. As P Gene stated, Jesus wants all and He will even remove whoever that stands in the way, even a spouse who is determined to hang on to control and use manipulation tactics and assassinate my character. It was costly in a number of ways but as I look back, God liberated me and now I was free to be what He wanted me to be. I truly believe if I had wavered and caved to the pressure, I would not be a part of what the Lord is doing at Harvest. In 2 John 4 and 3 John 4, The apostle rejoiced greatly when he heard of believers walking in the truth and obedience. When we do the same, I’m sure the angels in heaven are praising Jesus.

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